Relationship Gifts

When in a relationship, it can be easy to fall into the idea that in order to show your love and appreciation for your spouse, you need to find them the perfect gift. However, you can bring them joy through simple gestures and gifts from the heart, that will show them truly how much you care.

Instead of a gift of monetary value, put a deposit into your Emotional Bank Account. When a couple turns to each other, they fund their Emotional Bank Account, which creates a cushion for times of increased stress or conflict. Ways to turn to each other include asking your spouse how their day was and listen to their answer. Don’t immediately try to solve their problems, but instead help them work through whatever is bothering them.

One simple yet important relationship gift is the gift of a kiss or a hug. When greeting your spouse, give a “kiss with potential.” Instead of the quick peck you might be in the habit of giving, let your hello/goodbye kisses linger. Also be mindful of what your spouse prefers in the sense of physical contact. When you open communication about your preferences to something as simple as hugs, it can be a key component to physical intimacy. Give your spouse the gift of physical affection on their terms.

Another gift you and your spouse can give each other is time intentionally set aside to reflect. Talk about the good times and the bad. Think about how far your relationship has come and create goals together to further your relationship through the coming year. Reflective conversations can bond you and help create shared meaning.

These gifts, and many more, are gifts from the heart that keep on giving. Take the time to put these ideas into practice in your relationship all year long. As you do so, you will find that love and happiness between you and your partner will grow no matter the season.

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