Turn Towards Your Spouse

One secret to a healthy, lasting relationship is the act of turning towards your spouse. But what does that mean? How do we turn towards each other instead of away?

In order to understand what it means to turn towards your spouse, it’s important to understand bids. Bids are an attempt from one partner to the other to receive attention, affection, or any other positive connection. Bids can be simple things, like a look or a smile, or can be more complex, like a request for help or a question. With understanding bids, it is all about reading between the lines and seeing the true meaning behind the words. Is your spouse asking you to do something, or are they asking you to pay attention to them? The best way to see your spouse’s bids is to pay attention to them and what they are doing.

Bids are an important aspect of turning towards your spouse because they are a way to connect to each other. If you and your partner are seeing each other’s bids, it is a sign that you are paying attention to each other. When there is a connection to your partner, there can be strength in the relationship.

It is important to be open with your spouse about the bids you make. If you are concerned that you are missing your partner’s bids, be open and communicate your concerns. A missed bid is a missed opportunity to grow together and to turn towards each other. As you are open and honest with each other, you will be open to the bids your partner makes, and you can continue to turn towards each other.

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